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Planned Parenthood (PP) provides more than abortions, right?
Sexual education is something that I care about, and it should be important to us all. I write a column about sex and sexual education. Sex is something we all have or will have in common.
Someone asked me during the break what I did for work. When I told him that I write for The Linfield Review about sex, he was so excited. He told me that he had a customer come in with her mother, and the mother wanted him to tell her daughter that sex was bad. After repeated comments from Mom, he finally looked at the daughter and said, “I’m not going to tell you that sex is bad. It’s a great and wonderful thing, but it is extremely dangerous.”
The danger sex presents is what makes preventative care and screening so important. Last week, a bill passed in the U.S. House of Representatives to cut funding for these health needs. If this bill is put into effect, organizations such as Planned Parenthood will not have the funding to provide easy and affordable access to these health care needs.
The funding to PP began in 1970. Why would the government want to pull it now and risk all the recent progress our society has made?
President of Planned Parenthood Cecile Richards and U.S. Rep. Gwen Moore of Wisconsin were interviewed on CNN. Abortion through PP is a big concern for many people, but Richards said that the funding is for the “95 percent of Planned Parenthood services, which are preventive care: cancer screening for cervical and breast, birth control, STD testing and treatment.”
Abortions are not paid for with federal funds, and isn’t the first step to preventing abortions going to the source and providing preventive care?
U.S. Rep. Stephen Lynch of Massachusetts is pro-life and says he does not have many friends in the PP community, but he knows that PP has done more to prevent unintended pregnancies than any other organization and that this is the wrong way to fix the issue.
Richards added that 60 percent of patients only have PP to go to for the basic care that they need:
“If this bill becomes law, millions of women are going to lose their health care services,” she said.
Moore suggested that it is a double standard to cut PP and attempt to pull Woman, Infants, and Children without providing access to family planning. Reading through the comments under the video of the news story on the CNN website displays how misinformed people can be about the situation and sex. One person said that when he was young, his parents taught him morality and that tax payers’ money should not be used for younger people to continue with their immoral behavior.
Unfortunately, many people subscribe to this line of thinking, and the reality is that places like PP are about so much more than birth control and abortions. They have saved lives. In my own experience, PP has made a difference in my life and in the lives of many other people I know.
More than half a million women have signed a petition to continue funding and thousands have sent in their stories of how PP has affected their lives. People have until March 1 to show their support. If you are interested in showing your support, please visit the PP website or visit it on Facebook.
I would like to encourage people to write in with general questions or comments about sex throughout the rest of the term.
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As a woman, if I have a partner with HPV can I get it if we use condoms? If we are both participating in oral sex without a condom, do I risk getting HPV orally? If I have HPV will I get cervical cancer?
Human Papillomavirus (HPV) is the most commonly spread sexually transmitted disease. There are more than 40 types of HPV. More than half of sexually active Americans will have one version of this virus at one time or another. It is possible for someone to carry the virus for years without
exhibiting symptoms. Because of this, routine testing is important. HPV can cause genital warts and certain cancers.
Condoms can reduce the chances of contracting HPV when used properly and every time sex occurs. This includes oral sex. HPV can be spread during sexual intercourse, anal sex, oral sex and with simple genital-to-genital contact. With oral sex, the virus can infect the mouth and throat.
There are also vaccines that prevent common types of HPV. Cervarix and Gardasil are vaccines that can be used for women, while only Gardasil is available to men. These shots for women also protect against cervical cancer. Cervical cancer is rare but extremely dangerous. Every year, about 12,000 women are diagnosed with this type of cancer, and 4,210 women die each year from it. If it is not caught early enough, the chances of effective treatment and survival are significantly decreased.
HPV can cause other cancers as well, some rarer than cervical cancer, including vulvar, vaginal, anal, penile and some head and neck cancers. Approximately
17,300 of cancer cases a year are caused by HPV.
While the vaccine route is an excellent decision, there are some risks that accompany that choice. Some become sick, and some deaths have occurred as a result of the shots, but both occurrences are rare. If you are interested in receiving the shots, do some research and talk to your doctor about the risks before making an appointment.
This information and more about HPV, prevention, and cancers linked to HPV is available at www.cdc.gov/hpv/index.html.
Finally, a quick note about my last column: It was brought to my attention that I didn’t mention the local source for victims of abuse: the Henderson House at 610 SE 1st Street. Its crisis line is 503-472-1503 or 877-227-5946 and more information can be found online at www.hendersonhouse.org.
When looking up crisis information, always be careful. Use a public computer if you feel that your abuser is keeping track of your computer use.
Bailey can be reached at email@example.com
October may be one of the most outstanding months out of the year. It has Halloween with tons of candy and dressing up, and it is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.
In addition to these, October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Domestic violence is, according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline and the Domestic Violence Awareness Project, “a pattern of abusive behaviors including physical, sexual and psychological attacks as well as economic coercion used by one intimate partner against another (adult or adolescent) to gain, maintain, or regain power and control in the relationship.”
Domestic violence doesn’t happen to only a specific group of people. It can happen to anyone, especially if you don’t know what classifies domestic violence.
The article “Domestic Abuse Can be Subtly Sinister” on OregonLive.com reports that in November 2009, 14 people, six of whom were abusers who committed suicide, died from domestic violence.
Most people understand what a physically abusive relationship entails, but the emotional, sexual and economical abuses are not always so obvious. Signs of emotional abuse are much harder for people outside the relationship to notice.
The most telling signs are when the abusive partner tries to isolate his or her partner, monitors his or her calls or contacts and acts overly possessive. Sometimes the abuser will threaten to kill themselves if the victim leaves.
Economical abuse (whichI never would have thought of until doing the research) is a form of abuse that is also easily hidden.
In this case, Finances are taken over by the supposed abusive partner and an allowance is given to the victim. This doesn’t mean that one person paying the bills and keeping track of finances is abusive. That is financial responsibility and can save money for the couple. Abuse occurs when one partner takes all the money, spends it and gives his or her partner little money for necessities.
Sexual abuse is not easy to spot. Besides rape, sexualabuse can include beingguilty or pressured to have sex when one doesn’t want to, ignoring a partner’s feelings about sex or insulting a partner in a sexual manner.
Frequently, abuse will happen to women, and they will not be aware of it or won’t accept that it has happened. Many women may think that violence against women is the norm and that it is OK once in a while. But it is not OK for these women, and it is hard for them to change their views on treatment, especially when they have been in an abusive situation for a long time.
If you think that you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, please go to either the Domestic Violence Awareness Project at dvam.vawnet.org or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-SAFE.
Remember: It is never the victims’ fault; it is the fault of the abuser.
Make sure that you and your friends are aware of the signs of abuse in a relationship.
It is important to be safe in your college relationships. This is the beginning of your adult life.
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I am new to the college experience, in high school I was always taught abstinence. I didn’t get to learn much about condoms, let alone different types of contraception. Are condoms the best route to go?
Contraception and birth control are the perfect subject to begin with. There is a slight difference between the two.
While both prevent pregnancy, birth control is not always contraception (like a square is a rectangle, but a rectangle isn’t a square.) Birth control prevents the beginning of pregnancy when the fertilized egg attaches to the wall of the uterus. Contraception prevents the meeting of the sperm and egg altogether.
The most effective method is, of course, abstinence. Again, this is not always the common practice. Even if abstinence until marriage was something that everyone practiced, what about after the wedding?
I know I mentioned this last time, but not everyone wants children right away. More and more couples are choosing to have babies later in life. Some couples don’t want children at all. And some people don’t even want to get married. What then?
The most popular contraception — which I hope everyone knows about — is the condom. They represent 18 percent (one third) of the contraception used in the United States today. Male condoms are 98 percent effective and female condoms are 95
percent effective only when used properly. In reality, they are 85 percent and 79 percent, respectively, as a result of error in usage.
Follow the directions, ask a friend or look up diagrams (no, seriously) to make sure you are using condoms
properly. And put them on before intercourse, not after. When the condom is too loose, use a smaller one. If it is loose because of post-sex flaccidity, semen can still spill out, so lingering is not the best idea. These are some ways of not using them effectively.
While hormonalbirth control has its advantages, condoms are probably the best for college students or anyone who isn’t in a
monogamous relationship. They are provided for free inside the health services center in Walker Hall. Who could pass that up?
Condoms not only prevent conception, but they prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infection
and STDs. So think about that when choosing a method. Of course, they can always be combined with hormonal birth control.
There are tons of options in terms of condoms. There are lubricated and non-lubricated, flavored, glow-in-the-
dark, textured, fire and ice, female and male, etc. There are condoms with spermicide in them, but these are no more effective than regular condoms. In fact, they may be worse for preventing the spread of STIs.
Keep in mind that not everything is 100 percent. People have still become pregnant using birth control or condoms. Be sure you know what your risks are, and be prepared. Communicate with your partner. Birth control is most effective when there is open communication about its use, no matter what type is chosen. While some people are aware of this information, others may not be. Awareness and safety is the key.
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The Linfield Review has a brand new column: It’s essentially a “Dear Abby” column where you write in with questions, and I answer them. But instead of the overused “Abby,” I’ll use “Dear Bailey.” (My name is not Bailey, and to anyone actually named Bailey, I am sorry.)
If the name change wasn’t an exciting enough reason for you to write in, then maybe the subject will get your attention: This advice column isn’t about just anything. It’s about sex.
This isn’t high school, and abstinence isn’t the theme of human health courses, sexual education or of everyone’s sexual practices. Understanding sex and practicing healthy habits is the goal now.
You’re an adult and sex will follow you throughout the rest of your life. How is abstinence going to work if you get married and don’t want children for a while or at all? As college students, you should be informed of what you want to know about sex, sexual health and anything you don’t understand about sex.
Let’s stop here for just a second. This is not a relationship column or a how-to guide. I want you to feel free to ask questions about sex and healthy relationships, but this column does not deal with whether you should ask out so-and-so or how do I do such-and-such position. Go buy a Kama Sutra or “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Amazing Sex.”
Questions can, of course, be asked in Dawn Graff-Haight’s Human Sexuality class or in the health department. But for what
ever reason, not everyone feels comfortable with that approach. Reasons people don’t ask questions are often increased because sex is, unfortunately, such a hushed subject. Getting information is difficult when asking a question feels embarrassing or is in front of other people.
I won’t know who you are; you won’t ask me your questions in person. Some
one else most likely has the same question that you do. This column is to help every
one, and no one is going to get answers if no one asks.
Questions can be e-mailed to me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or if you would rather be completely anonymous, you can write to “Dear Bailey,” at Unit #A518.
As a personal disclosure, I am not telling anyone to engage in sex or any other sexual activities. I am just providing information and facts that I have attained through research. The more questions you ask, the more answers everyone will get.
Bailey can be reached at email@example.com.