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Bring your own boyfriend

I believe that every girl should have a BOB—a battery operated boyfriend. I don’t mean that women should replace men for this, but rather to enhance their sexual pleasure, increase self esteem and improve their own body image.

Enhancing sexual pleasure is the most obvious claim for a toy. Men, don’t be afraid or worried about a toy. It’s there to—and I stress this—enhance, not replace. It is a lot more difficult for women to climax or achieve the same pleasure, and this can keep you on the same page.

Increasing self-esteem and body image are a little less obvious. I include these because using a toy on your own or with someone can help you be more aware of your body and what you like. Many women don’t feel comfortable with their bodies while having sex. Confidence in yourself can make a big difference in your enjoyment. Think of it this way: orgasms relieve stress. To orgasm well, you must know your body. Experimenting with different stimulators allows you to get to know your body and understand it. The better you understand your body, the more pleasure you can achieve. The more pleasure, the better you feel about yourself and the more comfortable you can be in your own skin.

Vibrators come in different shapes, sizes and textures. Many are waterproof for use in the shower and easy cleaning. A basic vibrator is slender, smooth metal, and can be long or short. This type’s primary use is to stimulate the clitoris not the inside of the vagina. For inside use there are more comfortably designed vibrators. These are textured differently—usually silicone or plastic—and are thicker than the simple vibrators. These can come with a curved tip for G-spot stimulation, ribs or veins, and can be in the shape of a penis. Length and width can vary.

Bullets are small, oval shaped vibrators that are used on the clitoris and are attached by a wire to the controller. A spin off of this is a bullet encased in silicone with or without ridges that has a ring on the end to be placed around a man’s penis. Another option that is more expensive (more than $100) is easier to maneuver around is the We-Vibe. The We-Vibe is a flexible, U-shaped vibrator that is designed for couples. One end is inserted into the vagina with the other placed on the clitoris. A tiny button to turn the toy on and off and to adjust the intensity or rhythm identifies the outside end. The toy gently hugs to stay in place and doesn’t come out during intercourse. The entire toy vibrates so he will feel it, too.

If a man isn’t available, there is a vibrator to remedy that. “Rabbits” are a style of vibrator that are designed to stimulate everything. The head of the toy spins inside the vagina, while its namesake, a small vibrator in the shape of a rabbit or some other animal, extends out to reach the clitoris.

There are many resources for toys, especially online. One popular retailer is Adam and Eve. It provides quality goodies like the We-Vibe. A more cost-friendly choice is DearLady.com where it constantly has sales on random items. Buying online can be tricky, though. To view and feel the toys before you buy them there are “Adult Stores” and “Megacastle.” Or contact a Pure Romance consultant or attend a party.

Keep in mind that when you buy a toy it must be cleaned. Find a good cleaner and use it after every toy use.

Bailey can be reached at linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com.


Size shouldn’t weigh in

Size matters… Or does it?

In short, no, it does not. Penis size is a big focus for men, when in reality, size plays a small role for women.

Porn has given many men the idea that the average penis size is much bigger than it really is. One of the most famous men in the porn industry, Ron Jeremy, is reported as having a penis more than nine inches long. This idea of average can make men feel inadequate.

Firstly, the men are in those videos because they have a big penis, just like the women are in them because they are skinny with big, fake breasts.

Secondly, ouch!

The average length penis is between two and four inches while flaccid, and five and six inches when erect: much smaller than Ron’s.

There are also different penis shapes. Some can be slightly bigger at the head, circumcised or uncircumcised, and they can bend in different directions. Bending has nothing to do with how a man places his penis when he puts clothes on. The bend is natural and can even be helpful in some positions.

Why doesn’t size matter? Women are more mentally stimulated when it comes to sex. The way her partner talks to her and makes her feel will do more for her in the end.

Also, the average depth of a woman’s vagina is three to four inches. If a man’s penis is too long, it can hit the cervix, possibly causing pain to the woman.

Additionally, if the penis is too wide, it can cause painful stretching of the vaginal walls.

Physically, women are stimulated mostly in the first two inches of the vagina, where there are more nerve endings. Think outside the vagina. Most women are stimulated more or only by the clitoris.

There can be size differences that prevent a couple from feeling much on both sides. This is where sexual fitness comes in. Find a position that will angle the vagina differently. Try raising her hips by placing a pillow under them. With the man behind the woman on her knees, she can relax her head and upper back all the way to the floor. The man can also angle his penis to rub against the wall of the vagina.

All in all, it’s the motion of the ocean that can make the difference for both partners. And that is the long and short of it.

Bailey can  be reached at linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com.

Freshen up with morning sex

I feel it is my duty this week to inform you about a little known fact regarding starting your day off right.  I should warn you that we have been misled for centuries in regards to this question.

As most lies and unhealthy cultural influences regarding sexual health in America can be traced back to the ignorance of the Puritans, I feel compelled to blame them for the misleading.

In trying to figure out how best to start their miserable and sexually oppressed lives every morning, they found that it was best to start it on the right foot.

Starting your day off on the right foot might seem best, but actually there are greater health benefits to starting the day off on a different body part; your back.

Before we delve in deeper I want to assure you that the rest of this article, unlike this current paragraph, is factual and based on reliable sources like the Centers for Disease Control, Men’s Health and possibly Cosmo.

It is not unusual for people to spend between 30 minutes to an hour getting ready in the morning, especially for those who apply makeup and style their hair. But why waste all that time on something that can be done in just 15 minutes?  Morning sex is the answer.

You may be saying to your self, “Certainly sex is all well and good Dr. Donnolly, but the morning is not the time for it.”

I understand your hesitance, but I have faith that, as well-educated college students, you can find a way of getting around the problem of your partners morning breath.

I have heard that positioning yourself behind it might be the best solution for keeping a safe distance from it. The fact is that sex causes vasodilation and releases hormones that give us that perfect glow we are all after. It will flush your cheeks, brighten up your eyes, give your lips that perfect color and your hair that conditioned shine.

It has also been shown to slow the signs of aging, including reducing wrinkles and revitalizing your skin.

According to sexpert Mary Jo Rapini, M.Ed, L.P.C., “You end up being functionally younger … it’s a consistent effect.  If a woman has an average sex life, her real age can be two to eight years younger than the number on her driver’s license. It also lowers your risk of heart disease, cancer, depression, suicide and mood changes.”

You will be able to sleep in longer, save money on cosmetics and stay physically and mentally healthy.

So in the name of health, science and finance, grab your partner first thing in the morning and help them look and feel his or her best all day. It might just be that early morning orgasm that gives them the edge they need in a job interview or exam.

Ethan Donnolly  can be  reached at linfieldreviewculture@gmail.com.

Decision swayed by abortion controversy

The United States birth rate in 2009 hit a record low for the century. This is partly because people decided to have children later in life or not to at all, which may have been prompted by the recession.

However, teen pregnancies have been on the rise. The Center for Disease Control reported that a third of girls will be teenage mothers. Whatever the cause, family planning practices are important and need to be available for them to be effective.

The bill to cut to family planning practices funding, such as that to Planned Parenthood, has now gone through the House of Representatives and Senate twice. In the second time through, the House passed the bill, but the Senate continued to deny the cut.

While the Senate believes in funding the necessary medical assistance people turn to Planned Parenthood for, the House seemed to be focused on false rumors about abortion practices.

Many rumors have led people to believe that the money provided to Planned Parenthood is funding abortions and that these procedures comprise the majority of the services performed. The funding received by Planned Parenthood does not provide abortions. Money for abortions comes from private funds.

Abortions are also not a major part of their services; they make up about 10 percent of what people go to Planned Parenthood for.

Getting an abortion is no easy thing. It is a very difficult decision for anyone to make, be they a mother or father. It is a painful process physically and mentally. Women who receive abortions are strongly encouraged to receive counseling after their experience.

Even years later, dealing with the tragedy can be difficult and is something no one should have to go through. Women often become depressed or feel regretful afterward. They can also face ridicule from others if they decide to share their experience with loved ones.

Abortions can be the right decision for some people, and we are lucky enough to live in a country where we can make that decision. In Ireland, for example, abortions are not legal even if the woman’s life or the baby’s life is in danger. Not everyone feels it is the appropriate decision.
There are other options for women with unwanted pregnancies, such as having and keeping the baby. Another option is putting the child up for adoption. There are multiple ways to handle the situation.

Bailey can be reached at linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com.

Get to know your options: Plan B pill provides pregnancy prevention

“As a woman, do I need a prescription to get the morning-after pill? Do I have to be 18 years old? Does it work? What happens if I wait more than 24 hours; can I still take it, and will it be effective?”

To get emergency contraception, also known as the morning-after pill or Plan B, you do not need a prescription if you are at least 17. You will have to go to a pharmacy counter and ask for it but don’t worry, you’re not the only person who has done this.

You should call ahead to make sure that it is in stock.

Plan B is one brand of the morning-after pill. It requires you to only take one pill while others require two. You have up to 120 hours to take the pill but it is 89 percent effective if taken after 72 hours. After those first 72 hours, the effectiveness of the pill decreases. The sooner you take it, the better.

The second pill in brands that contain two pills is taken 12 hours after the initial pill.

The morning-after pill is not the abortion pill. It does not affect existing pregnancies in any way. Plan B and other brands are essentially a large dose of the same hormone found in birth control pills-levonorgestrel. This prevents ovulation and thickens the cervical mucus preventing the sperm from joining the egg.

This type of contraception should not be used regularly. It is hard on your body and may make you sick for a few days after it is taken. Symptoms could include nausea, abdominal pain, dizziness, breast tenderness and changes in your period.
Use a method of contraception or birth control that works for you, but if you have intercourse and that method fails (the condom breaks, you forget to take the pill for a day or two, etc.), then resort to the morning-after pill to prevent pregnancy.

Bailey can be reached at linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com.