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PDA sparks tension in college living

Dear Bailey,

My roommate is constantly making out with her boyfriend in our room while I am there.

I am extremely uncomfortable with it and concerned that it will become a huge problem and escalate to intercourse while I’m in the room.

What should I do about it?

This seems to be a common complaint around campus. It is understandable that people, especially new couples with the newfound freedom of college, want to be around each other and intimate almost constantly.

It is, however, not OK for you to be put in an uncomfortable position because of it, especially when it’s in your living situation.

While it does make you uncomfortable, and them having sex or showing excessive PDA with you there is unfair to you (and basically really rude), you can’t prevent them from doing it at all. That would be unfair to your roommate when she lives there just as much as you.

Stand up for yourself. Tell your roommate that you are uncomfortable and not okay with the atmosphere they are creating.  You live there too.

Be nice about it, of course. Talk to her when it’s just the two of you in the room or schedule a time when you can talk. Most likely, they just don’t realize that it bothers you.

One solution for you to suggest is a schedule for when you can leave the room available for them, maybe every couple of nights or a couple of times during some days.

You could go do homework at the library or hang out with other friends.

Let’s be realistic; not everything happens on a schedule. In these cases, they could let you know with a text message warning you of a last minute quick use of the room.

Even in apartments with multiple rooms, things can get uncomfortable.

If noise is an issue, privately let your roommate know that the walls are not sound proof.

Something definitely needs to be said and worked out between you and your roommate.

Everyone wants to have a good experience in college and dorms are already intrusive enough.

If your roommate refuses to compromise, inform your residence advisor.

 Bailey

Bailey can be reached at linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com.

 

Plan B does not mean abortion

Plan B explaining what it is, and having talked to people myself about it, I still hear people say the morning after pill is an abortion pill.
I can understand how some people would get confused because it is taken after unprotected sex or an accident. However, the two pills have different functions.
The morning after pill is not the abortion pill (just to clarify). It does not get rid of an existing pregnancy. Plan B, and other brands, are essentially a large dose of the same hormone found in birth control pills, levonorgestrel. This prevents ovulation and thickens the cervical mucus preventing the sperm from joining the egg, preventing pregnancy in the same manner as other forms of hormonal birth control.
Plan B is one brand of the morning after pill. It requires you to only take one pill, while others require two. You have up to 120 hours to take the pill but it is 89% effective for 72 hours. After those first 72 hours, the effectiveness of the pill decreases.
The sooner you take it, the better. In brands that have two pills the second pill is taken 12 hours after the first.
The abortion pill is taken after an egg has been fertilized, and it has attached to the wall of the uterus… simply put, after an individual is actually pregnant.
Getting a morning after pill does not require a prescription. The abortion pill requires a visit to the doctor and a discussion about alternative options.
The morning after pill should not be used as a regular form of birth control.
It is hard on your body and may make you sick for a few days following which could include nausea, abdominal pain, dizziness, breast tenderness and changes in your period. Use a method of contraception or birth control that works for you, and if intercourse happens and that method fails (the condom breaks, you forget to take the pill for a day or two, etc.,) then resort to the morning after pill.

Kourtney Bailey

Kourtney Bailey can be reached at
linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com.

LETTER TO THE EDITOR

A few weeks ago I was given The Linfield Review and asked to read the article from “Ask Bailey,” regarding anal sex

Later, I was asked to read another article from the same column about oral sex.

Well, I’m sure like many, I was shocked to say the least to find such topics in the school newspaper.

Then I thought, “Oh, I get it, I understand. Here’s how I bet it went with the author and editor.

‘Hey I know, I’ll write something just to see how far I can go or get away with.’”

Or, maybe the conversation went like this.

“’I’ll just push the envelope or see what kind of reaction there will be. And, furthermore, I can do it under freedom of speech or freedom of the press.’”

O.K. I get that. It worked.

But really, come on editor for allowing this in the school paper. Come on Bailey for writing this.

Do we really want something like this in The Linfield Review?

Is this really “journalism” at its finest?

I mean, come on people, is this something that alumni coming on campus for a football game or someone with their son or daughter coming here to look over the campus to possibly go here needs to see?

Shouldn’t this be on someone’s blog instead?

Or, just maybe, we should ask deeper questions like, “Why after sex do you still feel at times insecure or incomplete?” “Why do you still have a feeling of emptiness?”

Or, how about this one?

“If there is a God, what does He think about this behavior?”

Well, I’d better stop there. That would be a lot to think about under freedom of speech.

I couldn’t get away with that one for sure!

Come on editor! Come on Bailey! Is this really what we want in The Linfield Review?

This is our paper and a reflection of us both, past and present.

Linfield is a classy college.

Is this really what we want to show off to the community, alumni and staff?

Surely we can do better.

Let’s quit playing games with freedom of speech.


Linfield alumnus,

Dr. Dave Tillstrom

Don’t wait to report assault

Dear Bailey,

“How does someone know when sexual assault has occurred and what should they do if it occurs?”

- Anonymous

 

Dear Anonymous,

Sexual assault is present any time a sexual act takes place that involves force, the threat of force, coercion or lack of consent. Feeling physical or emotional powerlessness are good indicators that you are in that situation. This also includes voyeurism and pornography. Just being placed in a situation where you fear that an act of sexual assault will take place can be considered a crime. The intent during sexual assault is almost always violence, not desire. As long as there is no verbal consent, it is considered assault. Both partners need to agree to the sexual act.

Sexual assault is a broader definition than rape because rape can be different depending on the state. In Oregon, rape is any unwanted sexual intercourse with any amount of penetration. Most sexual assault cases happen with someone that the victim knows. Also, most assaults could be stopped if the victim simply screamed for help.

When either rape or sexual assault occurs, do not clean up at all. Don’t wash, change your clothes, brush your teeth or tidy up where the incident took place. If you decide to, report it to law enforcement first. Call 9-1-1 if you are injured. The sooner you get it reported the more available evidence there will be. The next step is to get medical attention at immediate care or the E.R. right after calling the police.

After receiving medical help, when you are ready it is important that you receive counseling. All of these are of course optional but highly recommended. Reporting the assault could prevent it from happening to another person. What is important is your safety and the safety of those around you.

- Bailey

linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com