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PDA sparks tension in college living

Dear Bailey,

My roommate is constantly making out with her boyfriend in our room while I am there.

I am extremely uncomfortable with it and concerned that it will become a huge problem and escalate to intercourse while I’m in the room.

What should I do about it?

This seems to be a common complaint around campus. It is understandable that people, especially new couples with the newfound freedom of college, want to be around each other and intimate almost constantly.

It is, however, not OK for you to be put in an uncomfortable position because of it, especially when it’s in your living situation.

While it does make you uncomfortable, and them having sex or showing excessive PDA with you there is unfair to you (and basically really rude), you can’t prevent them from doing it at all. That would be unfair to your roommate when she lives there just as much as you.

Stand up for yourself. Tell your roommate that you are uncomfortable and not okay with the atmosphere they are creating.  You live there too.

Be nice about it, of course. Talk to her when it’s just the two of you in the room or schedule a time when you can talk. Most likely, they just don’t realize that it bothers you.

One solution for you to suggest is a schedule for when you can leave the room available for them, maybe every couple of nights or a couple of times during some days.

You could go do homework at the library or hang out with other friends.

Let’s be realistic; not everything happens on a schedule. In these cases, they could let you know with a text message warning you of a last minute quick use of the room.

Even in apartments with multiple rooms, things can get uncomfortable.

If noise is an issue, privately let your roommate know that the walls are not sound proof.

Something definitely needs to be said and worked out between you and your roommate.

Everyone wants to have a good experience in college and dorms are already intrusive enough.

If your roommate refuses to compromise, inform your residence advisor.


Bailey can be reached at linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com.


Holiday gift giving can be challenging, stressful

It’s that time of year again, when everyone is racking their brains and rushing around to get gifts for people.

And if you’re like me, there is literally nothing worse than having to go to a crowded store to buy some bargain bin item to wrap up and give to a random family member who you’re not even Facebook friends with.

The holiday season always brings with it a few daunting questions, such as: “Who do I care enough about to fist fight a 13-year-old for the last Nintendo Wii for?”

The uncomplicated answer: close family and best friends.

The polite answer: everyone within your bloodline.

Why is it completely necessary to get an uninspired and usually poor quality gift for those family members that we only see once a year?

Wouldn’t it be more effective to save the money that you would have spent on a random cousin and instead use it for a fantastic gift to someone you actually care about?

Wouldn’t this save everyone the hassle of throwing out useless gifts like hemp candles and decorative boxes?

Just because it’s ‘tis the season of giving, it does not mean ‘tis the season of forgetting that I hate you.

If you do choose to listen to my mom and stop being a brat and get gifts for everyone you’ve ever met, another question arises.

What’s an appropriate gift for people you hardly know but share a slight biological connection with?

Is it acceptable just to email people Groupons for bikini waxes and frozen yogurt, or is that considered rude?

Or, if you decide to use your limited funds for those you care about, what’s the best way to get that someone special something special?

The Internet is always the way to go for the weak and antisocial shoppers like me (and probably you.)

First, Internet stalking is always a great way to start the gift hunt. Lots of people have Amazon wish-lists, and all you need to find is their email address.

And, who doesn’t drop unsubtle gift tips on social networking sites?

Sure, delivery fees are awful, but Internet shopping is a sure hell of a lot easier than finding a spot in the purgatory that is the mall parking lot.

You know what parents and guardians love?

Homemade things, but not poorly constructed macaroni picture frames because you’re in college and that stuff is not cute anymore.

There are dozens of sites to make photo books where you can pick photos and themes that will make your mother glad she didn’t drown you in the bathtub.

The most important thing to remember this holiday season is that everyone is going through the gifting drama.

So remember be kind when you unwrap your third pair of fuzzy socks.

Paige Jurgensen

Staff writer

Paige Jurgensen can be reached at linfieldreviewopinion@gmail.com.