Daily Archives: February 21, 2012
Coming into college is a major life change. On top of school, money and other stressors, add relationships. It’s almost inevitable; this time in our lives will bring people that mean more to us than anyone else ever has.
College is about finding yourself, discovering what makes you tick and exploring your passions. So how do you balance relationships? Because it can definitely get dramatic.
I believe at our age, dating is crucial. Test the waters, date different varieties of people so you can find out what kind of person is right for you, and what kind of person is all wrong.
Then, of course, you might find that one person who you can tolerate for hours at a time and might even find yourself putting on decent clothes for.
I have a lot of relationship pet peeves. The first one is when couples aren’t honest with each other. Honesty is such a simple thing. So many conflicts can be avoided by just telling each other the truth.
If something is bothering you, tell them. If you are not happy, tell them. If you made a mistake, tell them. If they get mad, so what? The truth is so much better than a complicated, twisted lie. When you lie about something, it’s like a spider web. You have to remember so many details to keep your story straight. It’s much easier to just tell it how it is and deal with it.
The other person is not a mind reader, so be straightforward. And don’t play mind games, because no one likes those.
Another thing that bothers me is when one person is controlling. If you’re worried about your boyfriend or girlfriend being unfaithful, talk to him about it. Don’t whine and complain and tell him that he can’t hang out with other girls.
Insecurity is not attractive. Confidence, on the other hand, is. He or she is with you for a reason, so remember that.
Trust them in their intentions and let them do what they want and go where they please. If you know for a fact he or she isn’t being faithful, get out while you can.
We all need to remember that we are our own individuals and we cannot depend on another person for happiness. Ultimately, you are the only person who can make yourself happy.
While in the beginning, you may want to spend all of your time with the other person, it is important to take time for yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in the love and the affection of it all, but in the end, being completely attached to someone else isn’t healthy.
One thing that I always tell people is if you are in a relationship, and you don’t feel right about it or you are questioning it, then it isn’t right for you. Now, if you’re just casually dating this doesn’t necessarily apply.
But if the other person is dead-set on forever and you can’t get that nagging feeling out of your head, you shouldn’t be with them.
There shouldn’t be a doubt in your mind with the person you’re going to spend forever with.
Don’t take relationships so seriously. Enjoy your college experience, and save the stress for schoolwork.
Kelsey Sutton/Copy chief
Kelsey can be reached at email@example.com
While comparing public and private schools before coming to college, the detail of being required to live in college housing can often be missed. Linfield requires its students to live in college housing until they are either living within 30 miles of the school with their parents, 21 years of age, married or in financial need.
Considering more than half of the student population does not live within 30 miles, and the majority of the students are entering Linfield shortly after high school, a good number of students do not qualify to live off campus. But why is it so difficult to be allowed off campus?
At public schools, such as Oregon State University and the University of Oregon, the school does not require its students to live on campus even during their first year, as do many other schools. This leads one to question why Linfield restricts this liberty that is given to students at other institutions.
Although public schools do not require first-year students to live on campus, there are benefits to living in college housing for the first year of college.
For instance, students are able to make new friends and make an easy transition. In making new friends, freshmen are able to create a comfortable environment to make any adjustments they might need to make with the help of trained staff.
Another plus to living on campus is that students are then closer to their classes.
After the first year of college, the decision of where you’d like to live should include living off-campus.
College is all about independence and growing up; forcing students to live on campus clashes violently with the liberty that is supposed to come with adulthood and higher education.
Other colleges that require this are private schools a lot like Linfield, such as Pacific University, Willamette University and the University of Puget Sound.
While looking at the schools that often require this, one would think that a student’s desire to make their college experience more affordable would be enough of a reason to be allowed to live off-campus.
When someone wants to go through the process of being approved to move off-campus, the process is tiresome. There are so many people you have to see if you don’t meet any of the requirements.
Students can be sent to many places for information, such as financial aid, residence’s life or student affairs. It’s like being told to jump through a bunch of hoops; it shouldn’t have to be that difficult.
Living off-campus can help a student realize what it’s actually like to take on the responsibilities of being an adult on your own. It creates a turning point in life where students can make the transition from being a teenager to being an independent adult.
While the incentive for the college to fill its coffers with bloated housing fees is obvious, the potential benefits to the student should also be taken into consideration.
While there are many positive reasons to living on-campus, there are also reasons to live off-campus. Let the students decide where they’d like to live in this new chapter of their lives.
Kaylyn Peterson/Sports editor
Kaylyn can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
Last week, I attended the town hall meeting about the safety concerns that students have about the previous incidents that occurred during the winter break and January Term.
I’ve heard numerous students complain that the school is not helping with this situation.
Their concerns would have easily been addressed if they went to the meeting.
However, only a few students attended the meeting, the majority being residence life advisers and students who live off campus.
As a student body, we worry about getting the best college experience possible. How can we accomplish this if there is no one actually trying to voice their opinion? It becomes harder to show that we actually care if we are not going to these meetings or directly discussing these issues. Our country was not built only on the opinion of a few people. It was carefully constructed on the voices of many.
The more each person complains and does nothing about it, the less gets done. With this new presidential election coming up, our country’s well-being depends on the voices of our citizens. The well-being of our college is based on the voices of our students.
With every dilemma that has come up, there is a way to handle the situation properly. Speak up about it. Don’t just complain to your friends and the people in your halls. The first amendment was established for a reason. Some may say that the school will most likely not listen; however, if a considerably sized majority brings complaints before them, they will realize that this is more than just a small concern.
The school is trying to help but they cannot do so without our assistance. There have been resources created that students are able to use. In order for the school to realize that we actually appreciate their efforts, we need to use them.
As students, the issues that need to be heard should be voiced. Complaining can only get an issue so far if you are not doing anything about it. By attending these events and making a simple statement, or asking a question, the school will see that the students care. Instead, we are showing that these issues are not a big deal.
The few who are trying to save the college experience are trying to be heard but it takes more than a few to make something big happen.
Ivanna Tucker/Features editor
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We’re all on a search for community, whether it’s discovering ways to engage in our cities or trying to understand how people work in groups and teams.
Usually, this investigation of community is a subconscious decision, such as navigating your way through a group project or chatting with a vender at the farmer’s market. But, if we want to be active participants in the world, it’s crucial to take a step further and engage on more intentional levels.
My latest, unexpected discovery is that something as mundane as creating compost for a garden is another window into the lives of people and communities.
It started last Saturday, when a small group of Linfield students—clad in rubber boots, old pants and sweatshirts—stood inside the gates of the community garden, learning the ins and outs of creating compost.
The students received buckets to bring home to their kitchens, and they learned how to deposit their coffee grounds, fruit peels and egg shells into a composting bin in the community garden.
Composting is easy. You just collect biodegradable garbage and let it run its course, until it eventually breaks back down into soil.
After some brief instructions, the students were sent off with the promise that they would be positively impacting the earth and spurring improvement in Linfield’s little garden.
Triggering this natural cycle of composting is simple, but its benefits are far-reaching and complex.
In fact, I think the benefits extend past the usual pamphlet-style list of reasons to compost, such as soil enrichment, natural fertilization or soil remediation.
Engaging in community projects like composting can help us understand people on a deeper level, adding another string to the web of our communities.
Even if you aren’t passionate about the environmental impacts of something like composting, it’s still valuable to participate in projects like the community garden at Linfield.
Novelist Barbara Kingsolver said, “Wars and elections are both too big and too small to matter in the long run. The daily work—that goes on, it adds up.”
Simply watching and helping people complete an everyday aspect of their lives, like disposing of coffee grounds, is one of the richest ways to engage them.
Although participating in large fundraising projects or one-time community events is helpful and necessary, I believe that Kingsolver was right when she said the daily work adds up.
Spending a few extra minutes of your day to do something like composting for the community garden shows that you care about a group’s vision and interests enough to engage in the mundane and behind-the-scenes aspects of their lives and goals.
And that work does add up, eventually, creating opportunities to build relationships in unexpected places and participate in larger, long-term goals and projects.
It sets the stage and gives context for deeper conversations and questions.
If you’re interested in the community garden or composting, contact Rachel Codd at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Joanna Peterson/Managing editor
Joanna can be reached at Linfieldreviewmanaging@gmail.com
Recently, the Susan G. Komen for the Cure Foundation has found itself in the middle of a political battle between pro-life activists and pro-choice activists for its relationship with Planned Parenthood.
In December, Komen decided to cut off most of its funding of Planned Parenthood after receiving pressure from pro-life activists.
Komen’s funding of Planned Parenthood goes toward breast cancer screening and education for low-income women. However, pro-life activists are against the organization because it provides abortion services.
After the news went public Jan. 31, angered citizens expressed their feelings via social media sites, forcing Komen to rethink its decision.
“As a women’s health organization, we found it unfortunate that they [Susan G. Komen for the Cure] would succumb to right-wing bullying,” said Jimmy Radosta, spokesperson for Planned Parenthood Columbia-Willamette.
On Feb. 10, Komen’s founder, Nancy G. Brinker, announced that Komen had reversed its decision, choosing to maintain its relationship with Planned Parenthood.
However, now that its relationship with Planned Parenthood is restored, many pro-life activists are once again angered at Komen.
What these activists fail to realize is that Komen is not funding abortions; it is funding breast cancer screenings for women who cannot afford them otherwise. Komen is trying to save lives and educate people about sex.
“We serve a very vulnerable population who need access to breast cancer screenings,” Radosta said.
Komen is dedicated to finding a cure for breast cancer; therefore, giving money to an organization that provides screening to women who wouldn’t otherwise get screened is an organization worth funding. All women deserve to be screened for breast cancer.
We at the Review believe that Komen shouldn’t have to be stuck in the middle of a political battle for simply trying to promote women’s health.
“We hope they follow through on their [Susan G. Komen for the Cure] word to put women’s health first,” Radosta said.
Planned Parenthood, which some who oppose refer to as “Planned Murder,” provides more than abortions. The organization offers a wide range of services, including STD testing and treatment, HPV and Hepatitis vaccines, health services, patient education, emergency contraception and pregnancy testing.
“Our organization provides life saving cancer screenings, Radosta said. “It’s unfortunate that people put aside a health care provider.”
Komen’s relationship with Planned Parenthood is a positive one, helping to lower the number of women who die from breast cancer. Access to such a crucial service should not be jeopardized by a polarizing political debate that is only tangentially related.
-The Review Editorial Board
The Review Editorial Board