Daily Archives: October 7, 2011

Wait to have sex until the time is right for you

Dear Bailey,

I’ve been seeing a guy for a few weeks now. He has been asking me to have oral sex, and I’m just not ready for it, but I don’t want to stop seeing him. What should I do?

How people define sex can vary. Many people don’t view oral sex as real sex and therefore are more likely to do it. The truth is that oral sex is still sex. In fact, sex can include any act between one or more consenting people with intent involving the female genitals or the male genitalia, such as the vagina, clitoris, vulva, penis, testicles and anus.

So, getting that version of a definition out there, consider what sex is to you. Is sex something you only want to share with a special person? Whatever your own definition is and however you feel about sex, you should not let someone pressure you into it. Take the time to figure out how you feel about sex and draw the line and make it clear to your partner. Your partner needs to understand that you don’t feel comfortable doing what he or she is asking, even if you are concerned about them not wanting to see you if you don’t. You need to be in your comfort zone when it comes to sex and relationships. Have sex, whatever you consider it to be, on your terms if you’re not as comfortable. If they do decide that they don’t want to see you anymore, then it probably isn’t the person for you if they don’t care enough about you to respect how you feel.

This also goes for the use, or non-use, of condoms. It is the best protector against STIs and not the most comfortable, so the temptation  not to use one can be high. If your partner asks you not to use one and you feel safer using one, tell them that. It can be dangerous not to and if they pressure you to have sex without one they could be putting you in danger.

The most important thing is not to let yourself be pressured into something you’re not comfortable with. If the pressure to do something continues, think about how much this person cares about you if they’re willing to have you do something you’re not comfortable with.

Please send your questions to Dear Bailey.

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Bailey/ Clumnist
Bailey can be reached at linfieldreviewbailey@gmail.com

Dance team deserves more recognition

 

It has come to my attention that many Linfield students are unaware that Linfield has a dance team. Established about eight years ago through the music department, the dance team began as a way for people who have experience in dancing to continue it at Linfield. Although the dance team is “not an official anything,” as junior co-captain Kira Weaver said, the team is continuing to push forward in an attempt to keep the team going, and it deserves the acknowledgment and recognition that any other team at Linfield receives.

Weaver is co-captains with senior Clia Zwilling, and together the two have taken over the position of coach for Linfield’s dance team because they do not have the funding to pay a for an actual coach for the team. Although the team is small, it has continued it’s mission to keep dancers moving and is the early process of attempting to make it possible to get a credit for joining the team.

“I think a lot of people don’t know [about dance team]” freshman Linnea Caso said. “The dance team was created as a way for those who have danced before to have an opportunity to continue to grow as dancers and continue dancing.”

Although Linfield also has other clubs, which are centered on different types of dance, they are typically inclusive of anyone whether or not they have dance experience. In contrast to this, Linfield’s dance team cuts people who have not had any dance experience. About 15 girls tried out for the team this season, and only seven made the team, including the two captains.

By participating in the dance team, people are able to further their dancing skills while having fun. However, the dance team, because it is not considered an official club, does not receive funding from Linfield. The dance team deserves the recognition of being a club as well as the funding to buy costumes and further establish itself as a team.

The dance team has performed at football games in the past, but  it is only dancing at basketball games this year. Because the team does not receive funding, each member pays a certain amount for costumes and extra expenses.

It is also hosting a fall showcase this December, in which anyone is welcome, with or without dance experience. It was cancelled last year because not enough people went and joined.

Although the dance team is small, it shouldn’t mean that Wildcats ignore its existence. The team deserves the recognition and support as any other team on campus, as well as funding from the school.

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Samantha Sigler/Copy editor
Samantha Sigler can be reached at ssigler@linfield.edu

Lack of support causes change in postal service traditions

Everyday, people send emails and Facebook messages as a way to communicate with each other. The U.S. Postal Service is on its way to failure as using technology to communicate to people that are far away becomes more of a social norm.

The Postal Service is most commonly used for sending packages. It used to be the only way to communicate with someone who lived on the other side of the country or world. Writing a basic letter seems  like more of a burden to people rather than an everyday activity.

According to The New York Times, the postal service’s revenue has been declining and is in need of ways to gain some of it back. This should be the job of the common consumer. We use this service and should save it from ultimately failing. The postal service is now talking about making new stamps that will encourage others to send letters. This new stamp will no longer feature the traditional deceased famous people, but will feature living figures.

Why does the Postal Service have to break normal formalities just to influence people to write a letter? A letter is a more personal and effective way to communicate. There is concern about how quickly a letter is received but by using the postal service, the economy is also boosted. If people keep dismissing the use of this service, then jobs will be lost and unemployment rates will rise.

The tradition of using historically prominent people on stamps is soon to be broken because of our dependency on technology. There are plans to release a stamp with a living person with major influence just so the postal service can gain some revenue. It is society’s job to help prevent things such as this from happening so that preservation of one of the only traditional services can be upheld.

If people do not help support the postal service there will be no way to send packages. Stamps with people like Elvis or Marilyn Monroe will lose their historical value and prestige as these new stamps come into circulation. To a certain extent, it is also the postal service that is taking extremes to save  its business. Is it more important to people to have figures like Lady Gaga on stamps or to preserve the sacredness of the traditional postal service?

The jobs of many are in danger if people do not support the postal service. It is not difficult to write your friend a letter and mail it to them rather than write them a long message on Facebook. With a letter, a more personal connection is made and revenue for the postal services is generated.

For this generation, technology has caused many jobs to be lost and is becoming somewhat of a restraint on society rather than an advantage. The postal service is one of the most necessary services and without it, we would have another barrier to figure out.

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Ivanna Tucker/Features editor
Ivanna Tucker can be reached at linfieldreviewfeatures@gmail.com

Use your dollars as votes for better world

Election Day is approaching, which means that most people are starting to research candidates and follow the news more closely, trying to decide which circles they will darken on their ballots and how they want to use their votes.

While Election Day is crucial, it’s important to remember that we are casting votes every day with the money we spend and the brands we support, whether these are conscious decisions or not.

As shoppers move through stores, loading their carts with gallons of milk and apples and saltine crackers for soup, the brands they choose to buy directly impact what the food industry looks like.

According to the Better World Shopper, an organization designed to empower consumers with the knowledge necessary to make more informed purchases, the average American family spends $18,000 a year on material goods. This means that the average family has that many chances to vote on the kind of world they want to be immersed in.

It’s a simple concept, really. Pooling large sums of money into businesses and organizations that produce goods with unethical practices will only foster a country full of those unethical practices.

So how do you use your dollars to vote for things that matter? Buy textbooks and groceries and coffee on 3rd Street from local businesses. Get a feel for who the business owners and employees are and ask about the origins of the products they sell. Stop by farmers’ markets as much as possible and listen to live music while meeting the people who grew the vegetables you are purchasing. Research the   ethics and practices of particular brands on consumer empowerment Web sites, such as www.betterworldshopper.com.

All this may seem excessive to a society so used to loading up carts with whatever items are on sale at the closest chain store. But for a country so dependent on democracy, it seems sad not to take advantage of those 18,000 votes you and your family have each year. You are a citizen voter about once a year. You are a consumer voter every day.

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Joanna Peterson/Managing editor
Joanna Peterson can be reached at linfieldreviewmanaging@gmail.com

Would you mind turning down the loud music?

I can’t help but notice that there’s been some construction going on outside Larsell Hall lately. I can hear them from my room, and it’s a bit annoying. I have no quarrel with construction workers, but when they leave their boombox on all day, blasting rock’n’roll from the ’60s and ’70s, I get a little exasperated.

Now, don’t get me wrong.  I’m a music lover, and I actually do like listening to oldies. But there is absolutely no reason why this boombox can’t be turned off while the construction workers are taking a break somewhere else, and there is absolutely no reason why it has to be so loud.

I know that we college students love our music. Everyone does. I certainly do; I listen to music all the time. But some people need to learn to turn the volume dial the other direction. I’m sure we all know those people who love driving around with their car stereo volume up so high that it rattles windows on the third stories of buildings as they pass by, and I think every dorm has at least one room that plays their music so loudly you can hear it in the next building.

This level of volume is completely unnecessary. Unless someone is actually hard of hearing, that person has no good reason to turn the volume up so high. If you can hear your music at half-volume, then you don’t need to turn it up any louder.

Not only is blasting your music unnecessary, it also borders on downright rude. Some people have early classes and need to go to bed before one in the morning, and others might be sick or struggling with sleeping problems and need all the sleep they can get. During the daytime, someone may be trying to write an essay or study for a really important test, and being able to hear someone else’s music even through closed windows and doors is a huge distraction.

I think that people tend to blast their music without even realizing that it might affect the people around them. We all live in our own little bubble of perception, and I know it’s hard to know what other people can see and hear. But everyone should at least make an effort to think about others. Not everyone around you is going to like or appreciate your music. Realizing that you are not the only one who can hear your music is the first step towards being respectful to the people who live around you.

I’m not saying that everyone should tiptoe around in perfect silence, never listening to any music or talking above a whisper. That would be ridiculous. However, I’m sure that I’m not the only one who would appreciate it if people stopped turning the volume up as soon as they can hear the music instead of turning it up until it can’t go up any higher.

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Sharon Gollery/Culture editor
Sharon Gollery can be reached at linfieldreviewculture@gmail.com